Maths Specialist - FiloMaths

I have known tat girl since My Poly 2nd year. We are very much closer especially after my NS. We went out very regularly. Of course, the more we meet, the tendency of quaralling is higher. The Worst is that both of us have a total different thinking (when she thinks A is right, I say A is wrong…then we start to argue until we ‘roar’ at each other) But how are we going to avoid all these, to achieve a stable and secure friendship? She is hot-tempered so am I. Just that I have a better control than her…:)

Most importantly is that you must know that when you are going out with someone, definitely inside our hearts, we are searching happiness not anger or sorrow. We need to understand each other truly and most important is to master your temper.

It is impossible that we always agree the same things. When we unable to agree the same thing, both of us will start to raise our tones. Once you sensed the raising of the tone on either parties, be more aware of your temper. It is easier for you to control yours than the other. Once you controlled yours, the other person will naturally be controlled by you.

How to control your temper so that the other will cool down?

You can talk a total different issue.

Example: Both of you quaralled because she waited for you for too long and when you explained to her why you were late, she dun accept and ‘temperature’ around both of you begin to rise. When it is about to ‘rise’ quite fast, immediately say " How is your Mum? Does she think of me"(anything that is funny and lame).

Then please dun bring out the issue again because you know that the issue is a ‘Bomb’. Change yourself if you know you are wrong! Be Honest!

What if the ‘Bomb’ exploded?

You must understand her enough. Most important, Stay Calm! if you dun really understand her or dun know what to do. If talking to her is rejected or ignored, you can sms to apologize to her. Criticise yourself in a joking way.

Example:

I am a jerk who always make you angry. You should dip my head into your shit so to wake me up. I am willing to let you do that, just because I know I was wrong(even though you maybe right, next time then take your ‘right’ back lah). I treasure our relationship. What about you? I know you are a Human Being - has feeling….wait for a while after sending the msg.

Once reply, msg her FREE tonite(bcos the night is cooling).

When you go out with her tonite, pls be a joker. Dun talk anything serious! Send her home happily.

IMPORTANT Things to Remember:

1)No point being a winner in quaralling bcos when a ‘bomb’ exploded, everyone is hurt deeply.

2)Talk things out when you are calm.

3)A small issue can be A big ‘BOMB’. Be careful! When it is small, ‘kill’ it.

4)It takes years to build a relationship, but a second to blow it.

5)Life is short, who knows whether we are able to see sun rise tomolo.

6)Since Life is short, dun quaralled over small issue like why you go out with other guys. Trust her, if not dun go stead wif her. If you suspect her means that you are poor in choosing the right stead.

7)If she wants to go out with other guy friends, accompany her not monitor her.

8)Remember she is a Human not a bird or a dog.

All the above informations are my thinking. You have the right to accept or not to accept.

Your Honest feedback is welcome.